|Posted on February 11, 2019 at 9:55 AM|
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Almost every woman wants other people to think she is beautiful, especially her boyfriend or husband. The truth is not every one of us is beautiful in appearance to everyone around us. I never really felt beautiful. I’m not to the majority of the world, to be honest. Both of my husbands believed otherwise. Each one felt that who I am on the inside combined with physical traits they found attractive made me beautiful. I finally accepted what they said because I look at myself through a faulty lens from my past.. When we stake our value on the notion that we must look beautiful as our society considers beauty, we set ourselves up for painful disappointment. The opinions of people who honestly matter will usually tell us that we are beautiful because of who we are. When we come to understand that our beauty comes from the person God created us to be, we will find freedom and satisfaction in that truth.
God did not make a mistake when He created you. In fact, He planned you and fashioned you in your mother’s womb (Psalm 139:13-17). You were fearfully and wonderfully made! God isn’t interested in what other people think of you, He is interested in you and has a wonderful plan for your life, if you are willing to accept it. When Samuel was sent to anoint the new King of Israel in 1 Samuel 16, he continued to look at how tall, handsome, and strong each of Jesse’s sons were as they passed by. He used human standards to judge. God rejected each of them, saying, “Men look at the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart” (1 Samuel 16:7). He chose David, the youngest boy in the family because of his faith in God. David had everything God wanted in a King and He groomed David into being The King of Israel, a man after God’s heart. Your beauty, regardless of what others think, comes from God. He knows your heart.
What God finds beautiful is not as people think because He sees our hearts. Truly beautiful people have lovely attitudes. Lovely attitudes yield loving actions. A woman from the town where I lived as a teenager is an excellent example of this truth. She worked at the school in the lunchroom and tutoring. Ruby was a sweet, caring woman, but was very difficult to look at. She had cutaneous neurofibromas. These bumpy growths were everywhere, including her face. She wasn’t pretty by normal standards, but she was a lovely Christian lady who cared about everyone she met. She was not married and had a daughter who lived with her. I often wondered what happened to her husband. Did he leave her because of her condition? Or was there a tragedy involved? Who knows. God made her beautiful in spite of her physical appearance.
Truly ugly people have horrible attitudes and it shows on the outside. Ugly attitudes yield ugly behavior (Psychology Today). I've worked with some "ugly" beautiful people in gyms. Many of them were very self-absorbed and enslaved to keeping that "perfect body". Somehow we've become confused about beauty and ugliness. Fairy tales depict evil as ugly in appearance, mostly because the writers were helping children discern between good and evil. Cartoons during my childhood telegraphed the good people and the bad people by their appearances, including the color of clothing they wore. It was never meant to stereotype real people, but it effectively did. It caused confusion for children when someone who looked nice was mean. We learned to equate beauty with niceness and ugly with meanness.
Beautiful Christian women have a confidence in who they are because of Whose they are. It doesn’t come from their hair styles, their weight, or their clothing. These women glow because they radiate the love of Christ. How they treat their bodies is different, too. They take care of themselves without being self-absorbed. God tells us in 1 Peter 3:3-4, “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” Some truly ugly people, those with horrible attitudes, often look attractive at first glance. It is when you get to know them that you discover their ugliness.
You are already beautiful because God loves you and you love God. Taking care of your body is an act of worship and sacrifice to Him because you lay yourself (that is, your own will) on the altar to serve Him (Romans 12:1). Because your body is His temple, it is important to take care of it by eating healthy, getting reasonable exercise, and caring for yourself so you can effectively follow His call on your life. Your inner beauty combined with a healthy, well-functioning body is absolutely beautiful!
In Healthy Lifestyles, we apply the Personal Stewardship principles like this one combined with learning how to adopt a healthy eating plan and exercise routine for your hectic schedule. You can also begin working on your body, the temple of the Holy Spirit, by committing to being heart healthy through #commityourheart. Whether you choose these options or Personal Training online, we bring all elements-- physical, emotional, relational, and physical-- together so you can be totally fit for life!
May God bless you!